“Expectations ruin everything. They’re the cause of all frustrations. Don’t expect anything from anyone. No expectations, no disappointments.”
But is it actually attainable to not count on something from somebody you care about? Is it actually attainable to maintain giving with out anticipating a minimum of, one thing in return? Unless you’re an angel, it’s human nature to count on and wish to be handled the best way we deal with others. It’s human nature to need those we care about to fulfill our expectations as a result of we’re additionally prepared to fulfill theirs.
While folks maintain telling me to at all times count on much less or nothing in any respect, I’m at all times in search of the other. I need somebody who has expectations from me. I need somebody who expects me to do issues and present up and deal with them with love and respect.
I need somebody who expects me to be loyal, dedicated and current. I need somebody who has excessive expectations from me and isn’t prepared to compromise that.
Expecting much less is definitely offensive to me. Offensive to my giving coronary heart. Offensive to my unwavering loyalty. Offensive to my trustworthy requirements.
Expectations push away the incorrect ones and those who will not be prepared however anybody who really cares about you should have expectations and shall be upset whenever you don’t meet them. Anyone who really needs additionally, you will ask you about your expectations and attempt to meet them.
Anything else is only a cop-out for somebody to get away with not investing, get away with enjoying the sphere, get away with maintaining you round with out totally committing to you.
Because in the event you don’t have expectations and excessive ones too, then you definately’re additionally not completely into that particular person. If you’re okay with minimal effort and enjoying it cool and being chill on a regular basis, then there’s no ardour, there’s no chemistry and also you’re not afraid to lose that particular person.
I’m not speaking about unrealistic or loopy expectations, I’m speaking concerning the small issues, like somebody being there for you whenever you want them, somebody making an attempt to make you content or making an attempt to spend extra time with you, somebody listening to you, somebody releasing their time to hang around with you and somebody taking a good likelihood on you rather than dropping you simply because you’ve got expectations.
And truthfully, in case your expectations scare away that particular person, then you definately’re higher off with out them. If somebody can’t offer you a minimum of half of what you’re prepared to provide, then you definately don’t want that type of power in your life.
You wish to be with somebody who doesn’t disgrace you on your expectations. And you need somebody who expects the identical for you. Someone who needs you to put money into them too as a result of they’ll’t stand the considered you investing in another person or another person might be assembly your expectations they usually’re falling brief.
It’s okay to have expectations. It’s okay to speak them. And it’s okay if somebody can’t meet them, it implies that you’re not on the identical web page and it implies that another person is they usually’ll meet you midway with none confusion, disappointment, frustration or one-sided efforts.